I often wonder if I’m approachable, in no particular manner just approachable. As I’m writing this I’m sitting at a wooden table outside at my campus. Yet, no one comes up to sit at the same table nor even attempts to start a conversation. Funny, there is a kid a few feet away from me sitting by himself doing homework and I’m not going up to him at all. Not because there isn’t any factors about him that I dislike but more so of the fear of rejection. Not in the “I’m interested in you. Let’s go get some Soy Lattes and make a love relationship” but more of the “I don’t know you, you don’t know me, let’s see if we can be friends” kind of way.
Making friends in environments that are not social events like parties(which is probably a more easier way to develop new relationships) is difficult. In Situations like these either you or the other person must give up that “come to me” stance.
I think I’m pretty damn approachable. I’m wearing Jeans for fuck sakes.